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 Post subject: Boy Trouble!
New postPosted: June 21st, 2009, 5:53 am 
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It's ironic..

One of my favourite male names is Mark, that's why I used it as an alias for my boyfriend's name, which is Martijn.

But that's also because some of my friends call him Mark since they can't pronouce his name. (Seeing that it's Dutch)

Here's my trouble though.

I do have a friend named Mark. That's his actual name.

I really, really like Mark. I even have a sort of crush on him. But it isn't the typical "I want -to-date-you" crush. It's more of a "I-think-you-are-so-cool-talk-to-me" kind of crushes.

I just greatly enjoy Mark's company and friendship. I want to be with my boyfriend, I deeply love him.

Still, I get raging jealous when I hear Mark talk about other girls, or kind of girls he's into. (Mainly look-alike Asians)

I always ignored it though. I have someone. I'm happy with them. But why am I still so jealous when I hear about these other girls?



I think it's that I want to be with Martijn.
I just don't want Mark to be with anyone.

Which is selfish, and illogical. And I don't even want him romantically!

I'm unsure of what I'm feeling. What to say or do.
















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 Post subject: Re: Boy Trouble!
New postPosted: June 22nd, 2009, 1:06 am 
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This sometimes has happened to me, so I kind of know how you feel, even though I'm single now. It's obvious you like this other guy a lot, maybe more than you think so... Even though you're just friends. I think it's important for you to realize though, that you have someone, and you know how much you like and love the guy that you're with, and you should focus on that next time you get jealous when Mark talks about other girls. The other question is, why does Mark talk about other girls infront of you? Is he aware you like him maybe more than friends? Or is it just every now and again when you speak?

Either way, maybe you should take some time out from speaking to Mark and spend more time with your boyfriend, or some time alone - just to get your feelings straight on the matter. You like Mark a lot, otherwise you would not be getting jealous like this, as stated, you like his company, and you like the way you and him talk, you could all too easy get the 'wrong' feelings since you're already with someone you love.

So my advice, take some time and think over how you really feel... Maybe even some time apart from Mark, if he daily mentions other girls infront of you. It's not ignoring him, or whatever you call it, it's just some time for you think over things. You don't want to fall in love with two guys, and you might say, "he's just my friend!" and everything, but from the way you described how much you like his company and get "raging" jealous, you like him more than you think.

'Cause face it, we love to be with people who make us happy, and sometimes we can get attached, very attached, and sometimes time apart can make things a bit better - especially when you already have someone who you love.


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 Post subject: Re: Boy Trouble!
New postPosted: June 25th, 2009, 2:56 am 
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He's right Maddy. Take some time for yourself, you partly deserve it =]

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 Post subject: Re: Boy Trouble!
New postPosted: May 31st, 2010, 10:26 am 
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Actually it is the fight between the mind and the heart. Your heart wants mark and the mind wants martine. Si basically you should give more time to your self for thinking that what you actually want. If you get that with the confidence then and then you should take the next step.

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 Post subject: Re: Boy Trouble!
New postPosted: June 7th, 2010, 6:44 pm 
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this topic basically screams infatuation

And to the post above me, you realize this was made over a year ago?

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